主题：【原创】现今社会的男人 -- 铿锵玫瑰

但是现在大龄男人不结婚的也多起来了。

大龄女人也多起来了。

而且二十多岁结婚，马上又离婚的也多起来了。

感觉是人的脸皮是越来越厚。

他们注重的不是感情，而是建立在不同程度上的利益关系，不是什么爱情，没有相互的信任。

结婚是为了赶时髦，比阔气，比排场。

双方一旦把事情完成，每天过着平淡的日子，一下子就不习惯了。就必然要发生跟妻子的距离越来越远，甚至嫌弃她。的事情来。

而且，现在人开放，追求某种意义上的刺激。

婚姻这东西复杂啊！

要看你怎么去理解，维护，去经营。

可女人呢？要尊从三从四德，不能红杏出墙！最倒霉和最吃亏的永远是女人，男人永远都是占上风！

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怎么感觉你是在谈古代啊. 现在还有三从四德这一说? 三从四德只存在女权舆论的宣传里. 只活在蒙难圣母们愤怒的激情里. 还有人遵从这玩意儿?

红杏出墙的新女性到处都是,就象包二奶养小密的新男性一样. 其数量比苍蝇还多.而且还理直气壮,自认是打破 " 腐朽中华文明传统束缚 " 的 " 新人类".

如果换个说法就对了

最倒霉和最吃亏的永远是男人和女人，新男性和新女性永远都是占上风！他/她们的性别主义理念让他/她们无所畏惧,爽了又爽

现在四十多岁的离婚是因为结婚草率，二三十岁离婚是因为把婚姻看开了。

以后离婚率应该不会下降，但是幸福率肯定上升。

说个部队里的事情：AB两对新人，四个人在一个处里工作。级别不够，只能合住一套房子。一年后，两对同时离婚。A新郎和B新娘结婚，B新郎和A新娘结婚。噫........谁好谁坏？

感情这东西，太复杂。

这期TIME的report

Breaking Up Is Easy To Do

In China, the hot new trend is "flash divorce," as women cut loose their cheating husbands

By HANNAH BEECH / SHANGHAI

Until last year, Chen Hong considered divorce an exotic American concept, as far removed from her life in Shanghai as gastric-bypass surgery or an addiction to reality-TV shows. Then she checked out her husband's cell-phone records. Hundreds of calls had been made to a mysterious number, sometimes just minutes after Chen left for work or took her daughter out to play. Like most Chinese women, Chen had abided by Confucian tradition, which advises that a virtuous wife should serve her husband like God, no matter what. But Confucius lived centuries ago, and Chen, 42, is a telecommunications executive with a good salary. "I want to get divorced," she says. "That's the only way my life will have hope again." (Chen's name has been changed to protect the privacy of her husband.)

It wasn't so long ago that acting on such an impulse in China was rare or even illegal. Ending a marriage in China has long been considered shameful, and for years the ruling communist cadres forbade almost all couples to divorce, viewing it as a symptom of capitalism's fickleness. (The injunction evidently didn't apply to Chairman Mao Zedong, who married three times and had dozens of dalliances.) In 1980 only about 3,000 couples divorced in Shanghai, China's largest city. But as economic reforms have loosened the party's grip on people's lives and ushered in Western attitudes, divorce rates have soared, particularly in urban areas. A study by the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences last year found that for every two couples who got married in Beijing, another untied the knot. Nationwide, the number of divorces skyrocketed 67% from 2000 to 2005 to approximately 2 million, with at least 120,000 more couples splitting up last year than the year before. "Divorce used to be a bad concept associated with a Western, capitalist society, and we thought that people in a socialist society should lead happier lives," says Xu Anqi, a sociologist at the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences. "But it turns out that the negative influence of divorce is actually quite small."

Sociologists in the West may debate whether divorce is so harmless, but there's little question that the Chinese no longer feel bound by the death-do-us-part ideal of marriage. Even the government has reconciled itself to the trend, simplifying the process in 2003 from a months-long ordeal to a jaunt to the civil-affairs bureau that can take just 15 minutes. With so many young couples dissolving their unions, a new term has crept into the Chinese lexicon: flash divorces--partnerships that last as long as the average Hollywood romance. "It may be the seven-year itch in the West, but it's the one-year itch in China," says Eva Wong, president of Top Human Technology, which runs relationship workshops in several Chinese cities. "Life in China has changed so fast that if things aren't new or exciting, people just end their marriages instead of working through their problems."

What's most striking about the divorce boom is that it's overwhelmingly women who terminate their marriage. The biggest reason? Wandering husbands. China's market economy has brought with it extra cash to support a mistress, an indulgence common enough during the concubine-laden imperial days but nearly impossible in the socialist era, when wages were minuscule and privacy was almost nonexistent. So prevalent are mistresses today that the central government requires officials to report their extramarital affairs to the state. In megacities like Shanghai and Guangzhou, certain neighborhoods have been dubbed "concubine villages" for the pampered inamorata living in them. "Generally, having more freedom is a good thing," says Shu Xin, a former advice columnist who now runs a private marriage-counseling service in Shanghai. "But freedom can mean temptation, and most Chinese men cannot resist having affairs."

The difference is that fewer and fewer women feel compelled to put up with it. The ex-husband of Li Jie, 34, a sales manager for a Shanghai trading firm, kept a mistress for years, even introducing her to his co-workers. But after Li walked in on her husband and his girlfriend in the bedroom, she ended her six-year marriage. "Women have more expectations from marriage now," she says. "They won't put up with the things their mothers or grandmothers might have, and they're not ashamed about divorce, either." (Li's name has been changed to protect the privacy of her ex-husband.)

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1552060,00.html

这个社会是公平的，但却是建立在残酷上．

女人不漂亮，男人无才，都活的同样痛苦．

男人的工作职位高了，收入高了，女人在干什么呢？该不是每天只知道血拼或者柴米油盐酱醋吧？女人要是把自己当作家庭的花钱篓子或者女佣，那出现裂隙就不是一个人的原因了。