主题：【原创】相亲奇遇记(16)我们都不是普通人(上) -- 忘情
家园 唉，这个女的，还是分了的好 我找女朋友，第一要看的就是对长辈和小辈的态度。
自己的理念是百善孝为先，不要求对方做孝子孝孙，但是面上的礼节、心里的感恩总应该有的吧
家园 【一个极端的倡议】即便忘情结婚了也要继续相亲 让大家能够继续看到如此
不普通的人只不过到时候要先和夫人打好招呼
相亲完全为了取悦河友争取支持。虽然有些“恶毒”，但估计对文中这些极品人物也算不上太过分，因为她们可是比这过分多了。
家园 说的好。中国的父母们对子女是全心全意 不能因为父母的“慈”，所以自己就理所当然地不尽“孝”呀。
家园 some Analysis This simply serves as a reference for Wangqin.
X每回都断然拒绝了。就连每回晚上我送她回家，也只让我送她到HD小区里某个岔道口，然后我发现她象个地下工作者似地左拐右拐，并不时地窥探后面有无人跟踪，然后突然加速，迅速地消失在阴影里。
She used to care you while she didn't trust you. Could we explain this as she doesn't want to bother her mother at this stage? Introducing you to her mom would make her mom worry about the relationship between you guys very much. Her mom's heart is not in good state. She loves her mom very much, in fact.
X母亲那病，也没有什么特效药，关健在于静养和调整。你既然整个暑假在家，那家务活什么的总得帮着做点吧。那不，X仍然坚持在外面嗨，坚持每晚玩到12点以后再睡，每天上午不到10点起不了床，还得母亲把早饭端到她床头。
As long as she stays at home, her mom feels secured and happy. Believe me? She is close to 30, but not so old that she could stay at home to watch TV with mom for the whole night day after day, right? She hasn't been a household woman yet. She needs social activities, because the vigor of youth still jumps inside her body.
我问她家务怎么做？菜怎么买？X回答都是母亲做，母亲早上五点半就去菜场，趁着凉快买回菜来，再洗洗抹抹地做家务。那么，你放假在家，就不能帮帮生病体弱的母亲吗？从她家到洪都菜场，得走上一刻钟，要是路上心肌梗塞突然犯了，你连知都不知道，那该如何得了？
The household work makes her mom at ease. A person free of any responsibilities could be a walking-dead-person. The way of her staying at home might be not very positive in your eyes, however it at least cannot be explained as she does not care her mom. If she does not care, she can go somewhere else during the summer vacation.
X对自己的亲生母亲尚且如此，那我不敢指望将来她能对我父母孝顺。除非她是灰姑娘嫁入豪门，处处低眉顺眼那是有所图。可惜我穷小子一个，不存在这种可能性。
Wangqin's understanding about 孝顺 is too narrow. I dod understand his concern. However, how she gets along with your parents if you guys come together eventually mainly depends on the relationship between you both. I would say there is no 不孝顺 xifu, while there is only 不孝顺 son.
我自幼家贫，父母含辛茹苦地将我们两兄弟拉扯大，直到现在都还是自己舍不得吃，舍不得穿，更舍不得用，有一点好东西都得留给我们兄弟二人。
You need encourage your parents to burn some money. Buy sth for them, and let them enjoy the happiness brought by money. Money does not mean anything if you never use it.
当然，只要我打电话过去，X虽然脾气越来越大，态度越来越凶悍，但终归还是会接电话的
She had feelings with you still. You wish she is very polite to you? Did you ever hold her hands and say " I love you, and I want to spend the rest of life with you" sincerely? if say so please not speak in Nanchangese.
家园 这……我好像看过某些类似的言论 As long as she stays at home, her mom feels secured and happy. Believe me? She is close to 30, but not so old that she could stay at home to watch TV with mom for the whole night day after day, right? She hasn't been a household woman yet. She needs social activities, because the vigor of youth still jumps inside her body.类似的说法还有“爹娘的钱都是为本小姐攒的，花在我身上他们心里舒坦，这才是真孝顺”
虽说父母在不远游在这年头是有点腐朽了，不过这也有点太过了吧。。。
楼上说到了愚孝，我想问的是，有些父母是否也存在愚慈的问题呢？爱是付出没错，但躺在这上面心安理得的享受爹娘的伺候，子女对父母的爱又体现在什么付出上呢？
好吧文绉绉够了，其实我想说的是：
连爹娘病了都能不管不顾，这TM还能算人么！
孝顺？别[此处删除XX字]了！
家园 说得很在理啊 强忍着把大段的英文看完了。佩服一个自己。嘻。
同一件事可以有不同的解释和理解，COO的E文再一次地验证了这个道理。而且并须得承认，COO说得非常有道理有可能啊。
楼上有人用了缺席审判这个词儿，感觉用在这里实在是非常精确：我们一直就只看到了一个无比优秀的忘情，N个差到家的MM。
不赞同所谓的环境说，人品这种东西与环境没有绝对的关系。倒是要求的漂亮，家境之类可能换个环境容易找到一些。
又要人品好又要方方面面强，这和又要马儿跑得快又要马儿不吃草也没什么太多区别了。
对了，忘情的这句话让我很替他未来的老婆捏把汗：“我想，父母的恩情是我永生永世做牛做马也不足以报答万一的”
天天念着这个的，不定是不是个二十四孝好儿子。如果真的是24孝，做儿子固然不错，做LG，嘿嘿，有风险。
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家园 分析的真细，比较有经验啊！ 开个玩笑。感觉你年龄比忘情小，但从你的分析上看比他成熟。
家园 给仁兄提个建议 你看啊，像我们这些人基本看不懂成段的鸟语，但是仁兄的发言是字字珠玑，又想看的不得了。
所以，仁兄能不能用比较简单的语法结构来表达您的意思呢？
譬如：Iron hand is best best best red sun in my heart。以此类推
这样，您写得清楚，我们看得明白，岂不是两全其美？
