主题：【原创】美国人的后代观念 -- 肥头
大陆出去的海外华人以九十年代为界，分成两部分。
之前的，比较弱，对中国信心不强。这个和当时中国和西方的差距有关，而且当时华人少，他们是孤军作战，底气比较差。为人非常谦恭。我个人比较理解。我估计楼主属于这种情况。河里的潘涌老哥就是。我父亲80年代初出来的时候就是这种感觉。
之后的，尤其是新世纪出去的，都比较信心满满，比较张狂。到单位，就说不是经理位置不干之类的。鬼子开始时相当不适应，连老华人都不适应。虽然现在企业里，尤其是老企业里，玻璃屋顶还是存在的，不过情况要比过去好多了。而且现在华人已经成气候了。在工业界有一定的声誉了。人说在硅谷都有鬼子投诉被歧视的。这个其实和中国与西方的实力对比密切相关。
出了国才深深体会到中国的强大对于海外华人的重要。于是才会有西西河这样的网站出现，才有当年奥运海外护火军团的出现。
如果，中国变得羸弱不堪，海外华人的确是可以过着比国内好的物质生活，但是就要不得不低着头做人了。
traditional Christian belief. That's more religious than ethnical.
BTW, what's your comments on the French Canadians?
英裔白人--the percentage of grandparents raising grandchildren is much lower than in China. It is true that some families will take care of their grandchildren, but the common belief is that it is better to let the parents raise the kids. There is potential role competition between mom and grandmother.
I was invited by my English American colleague for Thanksgiving dinner every year. Every year, his son will bring grandchildren back and his house will be a big mess for 2 days. Privately, he always told me that for one or two day is really a joy to have grandchildren around, but he and his wife could not tolerate any longer more than that.
will bring their own ethnical values/practice to America.
Those ethnical subcultures do not fade away for generations.
至于我看到情况：
首先，帮忙看孩子不是指和子女住在一起。主要指帮忙看放学之后，和假期带孩子出去玩。
第二，看孩子情况和教育程度还有收入有关。一般收入高的，受教育程度好的，祖父母自己经济独立性强，和子女关系好。而且有富余精力和经济资本看孩子。要是到了领福利金这个水平，基本就是贫贱夫妻百事哀了。
至于比例，还是国人高。这个和文化还是有关的。中国家庭纽带力量还是更大。这是鬼子想做而做不到的。
作者在中国出生并长大，思想中不可避免地要打上中国文化的烙印。当作者在美国遇到各种文化冲突时，表面上看，作者似乎是在客观地比较两种文化的不同。但实际上，作者是在积极挖掘、并努力说服自己去认可和接受美国的文化。为了让自己“融入”这种异族文化，作者甚至不顾客观事实，生拉硬拽地杜撰出“掌控欲”这种莫名其妙的东西。
作者所做的一切，归根到底不过是因为极度的文化自卑心理导致的文化投降行为而已。
BTW, not all Western Europeans are the same. In terms of psychological distance between generations, Britons are far than some Latin Europeans. Latin people are very similar to Chinese, esp., Italians.
In sum, it is not ALL WHITE people are different from Chinese.
Good 教育程度还有收入--those are middle-class families--the pillar of one society. They usually epitomize that nation's traditional values.
中国家庭纽带力量还是更大。这是鬼子想做而做不到的。
--when I was in Europe, I interviewed classmates from different nations. Before the pension/medicare system was established in those European/American nations, they are actually quite similar to Chinese. BTW, for people from backward eastern european nations, they are very close to Chinese in terms of family ties.
--the public pension system weakens the economic links between generations, thus we saw the huge cultural change in their society.
--If China switches to a national public pension system, the same phenomenon will happen to China too.
这是鬼子想做而做不到的。
--hehe, it is better to use Caucasian Canadians. You are a Canadian just like them. They are your compatriots now. 鬼子 is term too negative.
BTW, the Canadian Caucasians are very diverse. Alberta is populated mainly by Ukraineans. Manitoban have many Nordic people. Atlantic provinces are populated by Catholic Scotsmen and Lutheran Germans.
Then Quebec is mainly French while Ontario is pretty much every thing mixed together...
Canada is a very interesting country.
任何种族或民族都有极为优秀的人才辈出。这句话我同意。但是，说中国人没有优势，我不同意。
中国人与美国各民族比较，失业率低、犯罪率低、平均受教育程度高、平均收入高。这些都是事实吧？这要不算优势，什么是优势？非要出个华人总统才算有优势？
一个民族有没有优势，比的不是民族里的尖子，而是平均水平。美国黑人出了总统，但并不能改变美国黑人失业率最高、犯罪率也最高的事实。美国黑人和其他种族民族的人比较，难道不处于明显的劣势吗？
本来是各有所长的么，非要弄成非黑即白，难以认同。
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所以娶了外国老婆之余，还要深刻反省自己的文化劣根性
同样教育水平，同样收入水平下的美国人的带孩子的观念不一定比中国人的先进。
我正在做个相关的调查，等结果出来了，给大家汇报一下吧。
楼主咋被洋妞和谐的？说。。。。。。
对孩子德智体美劳各方面发展有利的算先进。